It iisn’t what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about.” – Dale Carnegie
Read 10 Secrets Happy People Know (But Won’t Tell You)10 Secrets Happy People Know (But Won’t Tell You) by Cate Skolnik who learned how to be really happy after ending an unhappy relationship. She was probably ending a relationship with another person, but the results could just as well apply to ending a relationship with BOOZE OR DRUGS!
10 Secrets Happy People Know (But Won’t Tell You) by Cate Skolnik
What’s your happiest memory?
When I was in my mid-twenties I suddenly became ridiculously happy. Everything seemed brighter and better than it had ever been before.I delighted in the birds singing, the flowers growing, the blue sky, and the joy of being alive. I went on an amazing, natural high. Nothing bothered me. The simple act of living was mind-blowingly good.
Maybe you think I’d fallen in love, but it was just the opposite.I’d ended a relationship.
After surviving years of unhappiness, and physical and emotional abuse, I finally found the courage to fight my way out. I was elated just to be alive. I knew this natural high couldn’t last forever, but I was determined that my new life would be better. I was determined to be happy, and to live a happy life.
And I have. Twenty years have now passed and while the euphoria of that time gently evaporated, the lessons I learned about happiness carried forward. From what I’ve learned, there are a few secrets that all happy people know. Some of them might surprise you. Ready?
1. It’s OK To Be Sad
You don’t have to be happy all the time, or even every day. Happy people know that it’s OK not to be happy some days. It’s important to process whatever feelings we have – sadness, anger, frustration or surprise.
When bad things happen, as they do to all of us, be gentle on yourself. Don’t past on a false smile.
The contrast of negative emotions can be beneficial, because they remind us how wonderful happiness is.